Tuesday, April 18

Post-wedding me!

Dah masuk hari ke 18 aku selamat bergelar seorang isteri.
Perasaan sekarang?
Aku sendiri pun tak dapat nak describe. Rasa macam pantas je semua benda ni berlaku.
Tup tup.. In shaa Allah hampir sebulan kawen dah. Hehe.

But guys.. Marriage is a no laughing matter. It is not as easy as I thought it to be.
Bila dah kawen ni, two families are getting involved. So ko takley nak buat sesuka hati ko je. Ko kena amek kira perasaan semua pihak when you wanna make a decision.
You can't simply think that others will understand your judgement because each and everyone of us have a different view.

Kalau macam style aku ni, yg jenis flexible and adhoc smua benda, then when you have to deal with your in-laws, you can't do exactly what you do with your friends. They don't really understand your schedule so they won't get it if you can't make it as you said.
So..ko kena bijak macam mane nak handle situations like this.
What I have learnt is that I must watch my words and I can't simply say out things that I am not sure of.
Tu muhasabah aku when the first storm hit our husband-wife relationship last week.

You too have to understand, this early phase of marriage is an adaptation phase for everyone. For you, your husband, your parents, your in-laws, your family and his family.
Ko takley rasa ko sorang je susah.
Sebabnya husband ko pun nga susah jugak untuk adapt. You have to understand that too.
Kadang-kadang as perempuan ni, of kos la mengharapkan suami kita untuk faham kita, tapi marriage is all about give and take. Aku takley nak expect all the time that my husband will understand me and respond appropriately , bila aku sendiri tak cuba memahami posisi dia as a husband and a son.

Art of a wife.
Tu yang aku kena banyakkkk lagi belajar!
When sometime I look at my husband, aku rasa aku jahat sangat sebab tak cuba faham dia and make him more pressured while he is actually trying very hard to give the best for everyone.

Last but not least, patience is definitely a key for a good marriage.
and... I'm still working on it.

Work in progress. 🙊

Pray the best for me k.
May Allah bless us in every sec we breathe.

and I pray that..

"Moga Allah jadikan aku seorang isteri penyejuk mata dan hati bagi suamiku. "

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